A few months prior to my adopted brother’s death, I had purchased a DNA kit for him as an early birthday gift. He got to see the results of that kit just a month prior to the accident that contributed to his death.
Fortunately in 1997 he had written to the BC Ministry of Social Services and received the sparse information from the interviews for his biological & adoptive family that took place prior to his adoption.
This past winter I had checked his DNA matches to see if there was anything new. I did have some contact from a couple of researchers that were 3-5th cousins, but without any names (there were none in the papers) I couldn’t help match any families. Then to my surprise, a DNA match came up as 1st cousin. I was surprised! And hesitant to approach this match. But back in May I decided to take a chance, and in my first email I started hesitantly, suggesting my contact could be opening a closet of skeletons.
At first, “D” thought I was talking about his mother’s side of the family. In my second email I started sharing the details in the adoption papers that described Allan’s mother, grandparents, aunts and uncle. Well, imagine both our surprise – I had contacted Allan’s maternal uncle!
We’ve exchanged a couple more emails through Ancestry, but unfortunately I can’t send him photos or documents unless we exchange personal emails, which I have done. If only Allan was still alive – even though not all the news I’ve gotten about his maternal biological family is happy, it would have been a connection that he was wanting when he was younger.